Delving into the world of bondage and kink is not an easy feat. Couples looking to spice it up in the bedroom usually don’t know where to begin or how to bring up certain desires. While you may be anxious to take your sexual relationship with your partner to new heights, you must start off gradually and slowly work up to the right level of kinkiness for you and your mate. Begin by sharing and discussing your sexual desires in detail with your significant other, especially your dos and don’ts, and learn safety techniques before you play. Naturally, you’re going to want to use toys in your bondage adventures—and there are plenty to choose from—however, not all bondage toys are for everyone, so again you should ease into this practice. Here are some tips and toys that will help you add some bondage kink in the boudoir.

Before you venture into the bondage lifestyle, try light bondage. Start off by investigating the bondage scene. Watch bondage films, peruse kinky literature at Barnes & Noble, and check out bondage websites and blogs. Once you and your lover are properly educated, you are ready to play. Begin with simple acts of sexual domination such as tying your mate up with a silk scarf or other fabric that won’t cause too much pain (you’ll work up to adding pain to your bondage play). Next, try blindfolding each other then teasing one another by sucking or nibbling on a sensual body part. Hoods are also sexy bondage gear and like folds, they remove sight, making them amazing for sensation play, so if you and your partner enjoy blindfolding then using a hood is an inevitable next step. Once you both feel comfortable, move on to comfortable restraints or handcuffs. Remember that kink and bondage play incorporates role playing as well, so don’t forget to act and dress the part with bondage gear from Adam & Eve. Throw in props like a whip, which you may want to use later on when you become more comfortable in your new kinky skin. 

Once you become acclimated with light bondage, you can move onto using other, more elaborate toys. Collars and leashes are a sexy and a gentle way for you to explore domination, while nipple clamps are a hot way to add a bit of pain to your pleasure. Metal cock rings and penis cages can also be used in bondage play. If you and your partner enjoy these stimulating sex accessories, then ball spreaders should be next on your list of bondage toys to try. After mastering moderate acts of bondage, up the ante by trying paddles and ball gags or take it a bit further with strap-ons and a sexy electro-sex therapy session. Remember to play your role as the best part of kink is the fantasy of it. Make sure you both keep in mind your safe words and respect each other’s limits as you probe further into bondage and kink.