Strap-on Sex and Empowerment

Someone asked me the other day, “What do you get out of pegging?” Without hesitation, I replied, “All wet”.

Although I made light of her question, it’s a valid one. What do women get from strapping on a dick and pegging a man?

I’m sure the experience is different for each woman you ask. However, one aspect seems to be a constant; empowerment. From the moment you strap-on a dong you step into a whole new role.

But where does this empowerment come from? Is it because you now have a dong and are the one doing the penetrating? Are women naturally powerless because they are the ones being penetrated?

At first I tend to think yes, women are naturally powerless during sex. But when thinking deeper on the subject, I find it disturbing to think that women are deemed powerless simply because their sex organ is internal rather than external. There are many women who take the lead role and control in the bed without a strap-on. They aren’t viewed as powerless. Quite the contrary, they are confidant in their role and their lovers know it. Empowerment must come from something deeper than simply having a cock to penetrate with.

For us, we both feel empowered during strap-on sex. But rather than being solely from giving or receiving, our empowerment comes from the ability to switch roles. Not confined to the roles we live in during our daily lives, in the bedroom we can choose our role without limitations or judgments. I can be the man for a whole night or just a short time. I can enjoy all the aspects of being a man. Such as, having an external sex organ, seeing him being aroused while sucking my dildo, being in charge and having him submit to me; it all works together giving me a sense of empowerment. Likewise Hubby can freely explore all the pleasures of being a woman without being inhibited. Who says men can’t enjoy lace pulling tight across their tender bits or wearing lipstick. Stepping into the role of the other gender is erotic and liberating on so many levels.

Empowerment is defined as give authority, giving ability, to enable, to equip, or supply with an ability. Yes, women can’t help be empowered by having the ability to penetrate their lover with a strap-on. However, I challenge you to look past this simplistic aspect of being empowered solely because your lover is being penetrated.

What are your thoughts? Do you think women are naturally powerless in the bedroom because they are the receivers? What makes you feel empowered during strap-on sex? Share your thoughts bellow.