So you want to play tonight, but you have to work in the morning. With dinner to cook, chores to take care of, plus the preparation of bondage play; how can you get it all done and still have enough time to play?
Believe me I’ve had this same situation come up a lot. It seems there is just never enough time in the day. To be frank, sometimes it’s easier to just stay busy and get something done rather than fool with getting ready for intimate time. There’s Survivor to watch tonight, dinner to cook, and reviews to be done.
More times than not it’s easy to get caught up and there just isn’t the time left for taking a shower, shaving, doing rope work, preparing our tools. Oy vey, just thinking about it all can be over whelming.
Letting our intimate time slip away might not seem like a big deal. What’s the harm if you skip a few nights a week? The fact is that unfortunately, this can lead to a rut of only having sex a few nights a week; and that rut is hard to get out of.
Taking time to prepare maybe time consuming, but its effect is more far reaching than you may think. When we take time to prepare and rearrange a few things to make sure we are ready before it’s too late at night, it reaffirms to our partner that being with them important. Taking time to rearrange things and have the night prepared, your partner knows that you want and desire this time. That after all these years they are still the most important thing. Trust me, doing this for you and your partner is a sure way to re-kindle lost passion and desire.
In my life, I’ve learned a few tips and tricks that just might make it easier for you.
Pop a roast in the oven as soon as you get home and make a nice salad or find a similar way to make dinner quick and easy. Don’t worry about buzzing around the kitchen at 6 pm getting dinner started, have it ready to serve at 6:30 with something simple.
After you have dinner started jump in the shower. Get shaving out of the way and smell good for your man when he walks in the door. Trust me, when he sees the peep in your step and gets a whiff of his favorite perfume, he’ll be purring at your feet. Take it a step further and put something sexy and revealing on for him. Letting the anticipation build is sure to lead to a hot night latter.
After you get dressed up, pull out your gear and get the room ready. Then you have a bit of time to pop onto the net and see what’s up with the world. Catch up on anything you need to do, but make it quick. Surfing and rechecking twitter every five minutes is not going to help you cut down on your time. If it’s a night when you have to get a post up; then try to have it prepared the night before. Believe me, I’m learning quickly, having posts that you have written on your days off saved to drafts is a life savor latter.
Once you get ready serve dinner and don’t worry about the dishes or pop them into the dishwasher. Give your lover a kiss and head to the bedroom to get everything else ready.
I promise he will be right behind you.
Take it with a grain of salt or try to implement some of these ideas into your own life. For me the results have been amazing! Unlike before, Hubby is happy come play time and not stressed about the time. He can take his time we can experience more foreplay before the ending explosion. Needless to say, it has added a lot of freedom to our routine and we’ve been able to connect on a whole new level.
The twinkle in Hubby’s eyes lets me know I’m doing something right.
I’m off to get dinner out, set the DVR to record Survivor, and get ready for my fun night.
HUGS,
Lori
