Today lets talk about how we communicate with our partners. It seems that most people show that they enjoy something sexually by their moans and nothing more. I am guilty of this myself. If I like something I moan the more I like it the more intense my moans. However, this type of communication leaves me hanging a bit. I like something and want more, but he moves on to something else. No matter how frustrating it may be, it is my own fault. I’m not sure why talking and using words is so difficult. I am been thinking lately, I need to break this bad habit and somehow become comfortable with communicating during sex. It is so hard to talk during playtime. I don’t know why, but it is. Sometimes I think, I sound stupid. Other times, I just get to self conscious. For us, a way to open the lines of communication has been watch porn together. We each pick a few clips on line and then while we watch them we try to say what we like about the scene. Also, we have started reading erotic stories to each other. This way we get comfortable saying the words out loud. It has been a great help during our play time. We are having so much fun exploring erotic talk, that we bought a book on the subject. Post bellow and share how you communicate with your lover during playtime and any tips you might desire to share.
Who would of thought that words whilst making love could be difficult, but I completely relate to what you are “saying” here. My partner and I talk all the time when we are not having sex but then both of us shut up (well me more then him) when we are. I had never really though of it as a hinderance but since you mention above about him moving positions just when it is starting to get good I now see the importance and need to be more verbal. I don’t have any tips but I am certainly going to try yours and will try to brake my barriers a little. Thank you for your post, very helpful and inspiring. Donna x